By Patricia Gras
Dr. Sherry Buffington will be talking about the law of abundance this coming Sunday April 8th at 3pm on HoustonPBS. Although I am no longer at the station, this series is one of the best we ever recorded and this particular topic is of great importance in the times we live. I suggest you watch the show to learn what it is that may be keeping you from what you want.
I wanted to share some essentials of another book she’s written called the 7 Essentials of Lasting Success. What I love about this book is the emphasis on authentic self awareness and expression. This is so important to develop the other six essentials. Until we have clarity about what we are passionate about, we waste a lot of time and money running down the wrong path, doing the wrong things and getting the wrong results. The only way we can have the energy to do what makes us happy is to know what makes us happy! In other words, self awareness is the foundation for everything else.
Ask yourself what do I love to do? What is my dream job? What is my true mission in life? Do it with no limitations. Remember according to neuroscientist Mark Waldman 99 percent of negative thoughts are fabrications. We limit ourselves. Take a chance and the time to find out what makes you happy. If you have a close friend or family member you trust. Ask them if you can’t figure it out yourself.
Secondly, have a clear purpose and focus. Everyone else will tell you. Get a job, try this, or try that. There isn’t too much time to “try” things unless you are very young, when you should or when you are trying to find out who you really are, but after your 20’s, you should have a good idea of what makes you tick. Write down your clear and passionate held goals and go after them. The worst thing you can do is to do nothing!
Dr. Buffington then talks about having open, expectant attitude and beliefs. You must stay positive. You have to have faith in yourself. She says the only things that hold us back is our own conditioning, old baggage that is.
She says once “we add open, expectant attitudes and beliefs to a sense of direction and a plan for arriving at our intended destination, we begin to feel quite confident provided we have built healthy enough boundaries to prevent others from pushing us around or pulling us off our chosen paths.”
Dr. Buffington also gives advice on how to develop personal boundaries. Ask yourself the following questions.
Who you are
Who you are not
What you will accept from self and others
What you will not accept from self and others
To have strong boundaries, you need to be assertive, persuasive and negotiate well.
“Go for the moon. If you don’t get it, you’ll still be heading for a star. Happiness lies not in the mere possession of money; it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of the creative effort.”
Franklin D. Roosevelt.
Finally to achieve success, you need self confidence. Buffington calls the Confidence Formula. Knowledge, Experience and Positive Feedback. You must have all three to have confidence.
You must also have self esteem. That means we have to know we are worth the effort it will take to actually bring our dreams to fruition. Finally you need to have effective self management. Once others cannot impact you negatively, self management becomes natural and enjoyable. You will begin to develop healthier relationships and discover there are a lot of people willing to help those who act wisely and are willing and able to help themselves.
To create a path for success, Dr. Buffington suggests you lay out a specific plan for creating your own personal brand of success.
I look forward to working on these 7 essentials the rest of my life! I suggest you stay tuned to Dr. Sherry Buffington’s show on the Law of Abundance which is expected to air in April of 2012.
In the mean time I suggest you watch this past show on the Art of Happiness.